Dear Family Coach: I have a 12-year-old daughter who is rapidly developing into a woman. She is uncomfortable with the attention she is getting due to her new womanly proportions. I see her covering up and wearing excessively baggy clothing. Her confidence is plummeting. How can I empower her to feel comfortable and confident in her new skin? — Puberty’s Mom
Dear Mom: Puberty is a process, not an event. Her body may have developed quickly. That doesn’t mean her brain, emotions and psyche have caught up. She may come to see her body differently with time, and even embrace it. It’s also very possible that as other kids develop, she may become more comfortable seeing her body as the norm, not the exception.
There is nothing wrong with your daughter covering up. Her body isn’t shameful. She might just find that it brings less attention when she wears certain items. Let her wear what she feels comfortable wearing without drawing attention to it. The more you push her to feel comfortable in her skin, the less likely she will. Try not to discuss her body at all. Focus instead on her abilities and strengths.
Updated: Sat Jun 10, 2017
Source: Dear Family Coach